THE GREATEST GIFT You Can Give Your Children
Sabtu, 13 Desember 2008
All the children are created worthly and are due to the right to personal respect and dignity. But how can we, as parents, build strong egos and indomitable spirits in our children, despite the social forces that prevail? There are strategies by which we can instill confidence and self-worth, even in boys and girls who are under siege by their peers.
1. Examine your own values
Many children know they are loved by their parents, but do not believe they are held in high esteem by them. A child can know that you would give your life for him or her, yet still detect your doubts about his or her acceptability. Your are nervous when he speaks to guests. Your buttin to explain what he was trying to say, or laugh when his remark sound foolish. Parents need to guard what they say in the presence of their children. Parents must also take the time to introduce children to good books, to fly kites and play ball with them, listen to the skined-knee episode and talk about the birds with the broken wings. These are building blocks of esteem.
2. Teach a "no knock" policy
On characteristic of a person who feels inferior is that he talks about his deficiencies to anyone who will listen. While you are blabbing about your inadequecies, the listener is formulating an impression of you. If you put your feeling into words, they become solidified as fact in your own mind. Therefore, we should teach a "no knock" policy to our children. Constant self criticism can become a self defeating habit.
3. Help your child compensate
Our task as parents is to serve as a confident ally, encouraging when children are distressed, intervening when treat are overwhelming and giving them the tools to overcome the obstacles. One of those tools is compensation.
4. Help your child compete
Parents who oppress the stress placed on beauty, brawn and brain knows his child is forced to compete in a word that worships those attributes.
5. Discipline with respect
Parents are symbols of justice and order, and a child wonders why they would let him get away with doing harmful things if they really love him.
6. Avoid overprotection
Preparation for responsible adult-hood is derrived from training during childhood. A child should be encouraged to progress on an orderly timetable, at the level of responsibility appropriate for his age. Each year a child should make more of his own decisions.
1. Examine your own values
Many children know they are loved by their parents, but do not believe they are held in high esteem by them. A child can know that you would give your life for him or her, yet still detect your doubts about his or her acceptability. Your are nervous when he speaks to guests. Your buttin to explain what he was trying to say, or laugh when his remark sound foolish. Parents need to guard what they say in the presence of their children. Parents must also take the time to introduce children to good books, to fly kites and play ball with them, listen to the skined-knee episode and talk about the birds with the broken wings. These are building blocks of esteem.
2. Teach a "no knock" policy
On characteristic of a person who feels inferior is that he talks about his deficiencies to anyone who will listen. While you are blabbing about your inadequecies, the listener is formulating an impression of you. If you put your feeling into words, they become solidified as fact in your own mind. Therefore, we should teach a "no knock" policy to our children. Constant self criticism can become a self defeating habit.
3. Help your child compensate
Our task as parents is to serve as a confident ally, encouraging when children are distressed, intervening when treat are overwhelming and giving them the tools to overcome the obstacles. One of those tools is compensation.
4. Help your child compete
Parents who oppress the stress placed on beauty, brawn and brain knows his child is forced to compete in a word that worships those attributes.
5. Discipline with respect
Parents are symbols of justice and order, and a child wonders why they would let him get away with doing harmful things if they really love him.
6. Avoid overprotection
Preparation for responsible adult-hood is derrived from training during childhood. A child should be encouraged to progress on an orderly timetable, at the level of responsibility appropriate for his age. Each year a child should make more of his own decisions.
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